Do you continue to go out on dates in Singapore only to find that the person you’re on a date with doesn’t meet your expectations of what you’re looking for? You’re on a mission to find the one, but one failed date after another makes you think, does my person even exist? You’re not alone. This is a common issue that a lot of people face when dating. They go out on dates, but there is a lack of connection with the person sitting across the table.
Are you ready to meet the one for you? Below are some steps that just might help you to find that true love you’ve been seeking!
Take A Break From Dating.
Taking a break from dating can be one of the best things you do for yourself. Spending time to focus on yourself is a great act of self-love. To begin, it’s important to intentionally dedicate a certain amount of time for your break. That means writing it on your agenda and adding it to your phone calendar is a must. You’re making a commitment to give yourself time for the joys and pleasures of life. You’re making a conscious decision to let go of any time and energy spent looking for a partner. Making this a priority to do more of what makes you happy goes such a long way on many levels. This is your opportunity to plug into activities that you enjoy. Maybe you love dancing and don’t have the time to take a class, this is your time to take that class.
Investing in yourself not only makes you a more interesting and happy person to date, it gives you a sense of internal fulfillment that you may consciously or unconsciously be seeking to find in others.
Circulate Some New Energy In Singapore.
When you’re finished taking your break from dating, it’s now time to shake things up and circulate some new energy. What does this mean? You will need to eliminate memberships, dating apps or places you constantly would go to for dating opportunities. For example, if you were on an online dating site, it’s now time to close your account. You’re probably thinking right now, what is the justification for this abrupt action?
When we continue to visit the same dating sites, dating apps or places that have proven not to work for us in the past, the energy there is stagnant and no longer flowing. There are also subconscious thoughts and beliefs that are connected when going to certain websites. So for example, maybe you were dating guys from dating apps such as Tinder or Bumble, and you continued to meet individuals who you didn’t click with. If you go back to using that dating app, your old subconscious thoughts will create your reality of meeting more guys that don’t click with you. You want to break the pattern and one of the best ways you can do this is by circulating new energy.
Start off by opening new accounts and/or new avenues for dating. Maybe you can join a meetup group in Singapore which focuses on growing your network or sign up for a matchmaking service. Whatever you decide, make sure that it’s something you weren’t registered to before. When you circulate new energy, you’re opening yourself up to a wider realm of possibilities to meet your mate.
Put Yourself Outside Of Your Comfort Zone.
When you step outside of your comfort zone, you will likely feel uncomfortable. When we feel uncomfortable, our mind leads us to believe that something is wrong. This is far from the truth. When we feel uncomfortable, this is when we grow and evolve as individuals. If going to a networking singles event by yourself absolutely terrifies you, take it as a good sign that you probably need to go. Remember you can always set a time limit to attend the dating event, and go back to your comfy home/couch/bed after. Give yourself a reward after the dating event, like a nice movie with popcorn. Whatever you decide, give yourself appreciation and credit for going outside of your comfort zone. Through my dating journey, I always found that putting myself outside of my comfort zone was one of the best ways to find love.
Using this process has really helped me during my previous dating experience. As hard as it may sound, when you start to follow these steps you’ll find a shift in the people you attract when dating in Singapore. You meet people you thought you would never meet and you also grow as a person. So go ahead and shed those old dead/dried up leaves so that your blossoms can begin to bloom! This renewed sense of freedom and perspective will give you space and clarity needed when you are ready to get back in the dating game. Just as the trees need time to shed their leaves during autumn, we need time as human beings to let go of what no longer serves us and rest up so we can shine brightly for the season ahead.
Author: Rishma Petraglia